Resolutions in the Making: Being & Becoming

The holidays are over and I find myself back at the computer trying to draw up a realistic list of my resolutions for 2018. I say “realistic” because in looking back at my list drawn up for 2017, I  realize that I haven’t achieved many of the well-intentioned but perhaps over zealous goals I had set for myself. Lose weight, learn to play the guitar, learn Arabic, volunteer more, write more, read more, work more, exercise more. Sound familiar? Well, at least I’m not alone.

According to Forbes magazine, only 8% of us are successful at sticking to our New Year’s resolutions. But rather than “more” my strategy for this year is to follow the advice of Harvard economists who found that the “stresses of time scarcity leave insufficient energy and attention to make sensible long-run decisions”. In other words, when we’re so pressed by time and stress, we don’t have the energy to make wise decisions that impact the long-term. Rather, when our minds are in overdrive, rapid fire reactions oftentimes lead to impulsive behaviour. A case in point here is my own experience of eating the whole box of cookies and buying that extra, pricey, handbag.

So, my resolution for 2018 is to “Do” a bit less and “Be” a bit more. Rather than rushing into writing my list of “things to do” for 2018, I’ll tread lightly through the length of January and give space and thought to “who I want to be’. As the year progresses and the seasons pass, I’ll allow time to think deeply and write truthfully about who I am “becoming”. Hopefully, when I reflect back on 2018 at this time next year, I will be able to fully recognise, appreciate and savour the offerings in each of life’s experiences. We are all “works in progress”, products of the interplay of light and shadow, and the qualities of time and space; we are all resolutions in the making. Well, that’s my plan. What’s yours?