Honesty- The Real-Life Story of Ausamah Al Khatib

real life story of ausamah al khatib hissah ec abu dhabi

Tell me a bit about yourself. What do you want the world to know about YOU?

I am an international citizen.  It is hard to relate to any one country which is something that is becoming more common these days as people are moving and immigrating around the world. In my case, I am a Circassian by ancestry, which is from the once known USSR.  I was born and raised in the United States and have been living in Saudi Arabia for over 20 years, and now I am happily married to a Saudi.  I do not like being asked where I am from because I have picked up all the positive attributes from different countries and cultures based on my travels.

Describe a typical day in your life.

Life after marriage is different than when I was single.  Now I wake up, do my stretches and then make my wife some coffee to take to work with her.  We get ready for work and I drop her off which allows us to start our day together.  I go to work which isn’t the most exciting part to share.  After work, I pick my wife up and we try to go to the park to walk for about 30-45min.  Then we come home and I cook dinner, which has become a new passion for me, while my wife prepares our snacks for the next day.  We sit and have dinner while watching our show “How I Met your Mother”.  Afterwards we both seclude into our own spaces for some “me” time. She watches her show “Grey’s Anatomy”, while I work on my laptop doing the hobbies I have, or watch some YouTube shows to continue learning something new every day, or have friends over.   Lately, I have been getting back into 3D modelling, where I am planning to have a race car game with my beloved car “Candy” as well as setting up my own FPV racing drone.  Once the weekend is upon us, I go to the park to exercise and play basketball with my friends and then on the second weekend day I make sure to get a good swim at the gym.  That is unless we travel to Bahrain for the weekend as our little getaway! Friday is about brunch, a movie and lounge and Saturday is for friends and visiting my wife’s family.

What was one of the biggest challenges you faced during your journey to where you are today?

There are so many challenges, but the greatest challenge for me was getting through 4 months of being paralyzed waist down back in my university days.  Since I live in Saudi Arabia away from family since I was 18 years old, I had learned to be fully independent even in the most extreme of situations such as being paralyzed.  It was the greatest challenge, a mental challenge more than anything, and it forced me to rethink every aspect of my life. If not for that experience, I would not have become the person I am today.  It literally changed me in so many ways. It changed the way I would look and deal with any situation in life, with friends and family.  I realized the blessing of being of being able to walk and get about, and since then I have been on the go continuously taking advantage of every moment I can.  So much that it drives the people around me crazy how I never calm down.

Who would you describe as a role model and why?

That is tough to say.  There is no one single role model in my life. All along I have been just learning from my surroundings, whether the countries I travel to or the friends I make, or the hobbies I pick up.  I think everyone has something to teach us, no matter how educated/uneducated, rich/poor, successful or just barely making it though life.

Tell us one thing about you that most people don’t know.

It is very hard for me to trust someone to help out.  It comes from being independent for so long.   Yet at the same time, my friends have become closer and more important to me than family as an expat living in a country away from any family or relatives.  I tend to always think 10 steps ahead which drives the close people around me crazy, as it doesn’t give them a chance to surprise me with anything. 

What is one piece of advice about how to cope with challenges/struggles you face in life that you would like to give to the world?

There was a secretary in my first job who taught me that for every challenge/problem/struggle there is a solution, even if it is not the most ideal solution.  The trick is to resolve whatever you are faced with at the time and continue to move on because life will continue to throw challenges our way.  Best thing is to break down any challenge you are faced to its simplest matter and pick the best solution you can find at the time and move in with life.  We live life once and it is not worth wasting the days on any one struggle, even if the outcome is not always the one you want.  In the end, I am a firm believer that God has written for us all the good and bad that we go through in life and it is all just part of a greater plan which we may not realize until years later. 

What is ONE word that you feel defines you? (It could be your profession, a personality trait, or a quality you possess).

This is tough but it would be either honesty or respect. Honesty in everything I do or say.  I have a saying in Arabic “الصراحة راحة” which means “honesty is comfort” even if it may be hurtful to some.  Respect everyone and everything in life.  The way we deal with others will be our true legacy in life. So if anything, I would want people to always remember that I was honest and respectful more than anything else in the world.