real life story of farhana amir hissah ec abu dhabi

Tell me a bit about yourself. What do you want the world to know about YOU?

My name is Farhana Amir. I’m a teacher by profession. I have been working since 18 years now, many different fields and many experiences which I’m grateful for. It made me who I am today. I’m 35 years old and I enjoy every bit of life. Simple things like having a cup of coffee sitting on my window sill while it rains makes me happy or a good movie with popcorn and a comfortable couch!  I would like the world to know that I’m a survivor! What I have faced in the past few years of my life is enough to kill anybody but I choose to rise up and be stronger. I believe there is so much in this world we miss out on as we are busy crying about our sadness or pain. I have learned to pause, breath and look around. I’m an extremely positive person, maybe that’s the reason I find colours wherever there is darkness. Once my boss called me in for feedback and I remember he said, “Farhana, you see everything with pink glasses. Nothing is ever wrong or bad for you!” I was actually quite happy at this feedback and this is what made me survive!

In life people change, they definitely do. You stand alone and no matter what we should learn to love ourselves first then others as we are who we came with, will live with and will die with.

Describe a typical day in your life.

I hardly sleep! A typical day in life starts with trying to tell my brain to function. I wake up, check my phone, shower, breakfast and off to work. I love my work as it involves being with children and I think a child is the most beautiful thing in this world. I have awesome group of colleagues at work who make my day special and worth every day. After work its family time. Mum, dad, brother, his wife and 3 kids. I love having my evening tea with my mum and water the plants we planted together. I play with my niece and nephews, have dinner, watch TV and go to bed! Sleep comes if I’m lucky!

What was one of the biggest challenges you faced during your journey to where you are today?

The biggest challenge I faced was learning to live without my children and facing the fact that the person I thought was my closest friend and partner broke my trust. I lost love of 3 people and lost the two biggest relations in life together, a wife and a mother. Dealing with the pain was, and still is, a struggle every day. I had to leave my kids behind and later got divorced from a 10 year marriage and the person I was crazy for. He broke all my trust and left me in the middle of nowhere. It took me 3 years to realize that I have actually lost him forever but I still have my kids who I miss terribly and hope I see them soon. Learning to live and survive alone was the hardest things I ever had to do.

I’m lucky I have wonderful parents and friends who helped me through my pain. I’m blessed with the best workplace, boss and work colleagues who are the reason I’m alive today. Veritas Learning Circle is the place which showed me ray of hope and reason to carry on living. A beautiful happy environment where you cannot NOT be happy!! I will always be thankful for all these people for helping me survive the loss I suffered.

Who would you describe as a role model and why?

Well I don’t have any particular person as my role model because nobody is perfect. Everyone is good at something so wherever I see a good quality they become my role model. I have learnt a lot of things from many different people in life who together have helped shape my personality. I’m grateful to that every person and every lesson.

Tell us one thing about you that most people don’t know.

I can move my ears without moving any other part of my body or face!! Really I can! Now this is definitely something MOST people don’t know. Oh and yeah I cannot dance even though I like to think I’m great at it, I’m actually really bad at it but still do it and do it very joyfully too J As I said before, simple things in life makes me happy

What is one piece of advice about how to cope with challenges/struggles you face in life that you would like to give to the world?

Life is full of surprises. You never know what’s around the corner. Never trust anyone with your every decision, always make sure you know your worth and what you are capable of. No one belongs to anyone in this world, every person comes in your life for a reason and once that is over they will leave. Don’t get attached so anyone so much that you won’t be able to survive without them. Study, travel and be independent. No one will rescue you when you fall, only you can save yourself.  Don’t be scared of being alone. With loneliness comes freedom. Love your parents, you will need their prayers. Take time out to invest in you, love yourself and be kind to everyone. Be thoughtful of your words and actions. You never know what battle the others are fighting. Be a nice human before you try to be anything else. In the end, SMILE and smile a lot. You will be fine. It gets better I promise!

“The world is not all sunshine and rainbows it’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is gunna hit hard as life, but it’s not about how hard you hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward – how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! If you know what you are worth then go out and get what you are worth but you gotta be willing to take the hits and not pointing fingers. Cowards do that and that isn’t you! You are better than that!!!!  – “Sylvester Stallone in Rocky”

What is ONE word that you feel defines you? (It could be your profession, a personality trait, or a quality you possess).

Awesome! That’s the word which defines every survivor and I’m a survivor and I’m proud of myself. I never give myself enough credit until now but I think it is time I should start appreciating myself and what I have been through. So, yes, I’m a survivor and I’m awesome. I didn’t let myself drain away and loose hope in life or love, instead I have very strong belief that after darkness its light and people who do bad will see bad days too. What goes around come around. I have had days I was admitted to emergency room with severe panic attacks and I couldn’t cope at work because of being too sad and depressed, but I learnt that I was only hurting myself and my family more. It is ok to be sad and cry sometimes but as long as you use those tears for your strength, and not weakness.