Anger. An emotion that we all experience and know. An often misunderstood emotion; we tend to mix it up with aggression and violence, viewing it only in a negative light. What we don’t realize is that anger is a completely normal and healthy human emotion. However, like any other emotion, if it reaches an extreme level or becomes destructive – ruining relationships and/or disrupting your day-to-day life – then it is something which needs to be addressed.

What is Anger?

Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,” according to Charles Spielberger, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do adrenaline levels. Anger can be triggered by many different things, a specific person, an event in your life, personal problems or even recalling past traumatic experiences. Whatever the cause of our anger may be, it is the way in which we express it that matters. Do we suppress it and store unexpressed anger inside of us? Do we lash out on whatever or whomever is around us? Do we become physically aggressive or violent? Or do we express our feelings of anger with assertiveness rather than aggression?

If you feel that you are constantly angry, or that you get too angry too often that it becomes hard to control, and especially if you find yourself resorting to violence due to your anger – then it is important to consider anger management counseling to help you address this problem.

Anger Management

Anger management classes or counseling can take place in a group setting or as one-on-one counseling. The duration, format, and number of sessions varies depending on what program you choose or the counselors’ initial assessment of your needs.

The first thing you should focus on when you start to work upon managing your anger is to identify your triggers, as well as the physical and emotional warning signs that you notice as you begin to get angry. Getting down to the root of a problem can help you better work towards solutions to manage it.

The major aims of anger management counseling are to help you identify and manage factors that trigger your anger through learning specified skills to use when you are faced with situations that are likely to make you angry. Focus is placed on areas where you need to develop your skills such as; communication skills to more effectively articulate your feelings, stress management skills to diffuse your anger before it reaches a boiling point, life management skills which include regulating sleep, eating patterns, exercise etc., as well as relaxation techniques to help you learn to focus your energy in the right place.

The Results

Learning to control and manage your anger can have many benefits. The learned skills you acquire during anger management counseling or classes will allow you to enjoy a healthier and more stable life. It can help you to improve your communication and the way in which you express yourself to those around you, prevent complications in your relationships with loved ones and colleagues that may have arisen due to your anger issues, as well as generally allow you to live a calmer and more stress-free life as you can avoid the triggers you had identified that cause your anger to spike.

 

References:

American Psychological Association (APA). Controlling anger before it controls you (2018). Retrieved from  http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx

Mayo Clinic. Anger Management (2017). Retrieved from https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/anger-management/about/pac-20385186